Polyamorous Relationships
Polyamorous relationships are relationships involving more than two adults; someone who identifies as polyamorous is or prefers to be in a relationship with more than one other person at a time. Polyamorous relationships are tremendously diverse. They may include adults who are married to each other and adults who have had children together. The people in a polyamorous relationship may or may not identify as a family, they may or may not live together, and they may or may not own property together. Not only are polyamorous relationships diverse, they are complicated.
This section provides an introduction to polyamorous relationships and how polyamorous relationships work in the context of family law. Because each province and territory has its own laws about who is entitled to parent children, ask for child support, ask for spousal support, and ask to divide property, the information in this page only applies to people who live in British Columbia. If you live outside of British Columbia and are entering or leaving a polyamorous relationship, you must speak to a family law lawyer in your area for accurate information about how family law may impact you and your relationship.
Introduction
Polyamorous relationships vary in terms of people's expectations of commitment, interdependence, and sexual and emotional fidelity. An individual may be simultaneously involved in two or more romantic relationships without those people being in a relationship with each other, or significant, committed relationships may exist among everyone involved. An individual may be involved in a core pair or polyamorous relationship that is committed and enduring, while one or more members of that relationship maintain peripheral sexual relationships with others. Or, an individual may be involved in a number of concurrent relationships that are more sexual than romantic in nature and involve a lesser sense of interdependence. It's safe to say that no two polyamorous relationships are exactly alike.
Polyamorous relationships have likely existed from the dawn of human history. Even though pair relationships have dominated Western culture since the days of the Ancient Greeks and Romans, polygamous marriages are permitted by law and remain important parts of the cultural fabric in many countries — particularly in western Africa and in nations governed by sharia law — and are socially accepted but neither legalized nor criminalized in others. Polyamorous relationships, the unmarried cousin of polygamous relationships, are growing in popularity in North America and in Europe, and it appears that more Canadians identify as polyamorous today than ever before.
That being said, the exact number of Canadians who consider themselves to be polyamorous or are engaged in polyamorous relationships is unknown as Statistics Canada doesn't track polyamorous relationships in its population surveys. The limited information available from the United States suggests that in 2009, one in 614 Americans lived in openly polyamorous relationships and that in 2010, one in 500 Americans identified as polyamorous. Research conducted by the Canadian Research Institute for Law and the Family in 2016 found that 82.4 percent of the 547 respondents to a national survey agreed that the number of people who identify as polyamorous in Canada is increasing, while 80.9 percent agreed that the number of people involved in polyamorous relationships is increasing.
Family law is relevant to people in polyamorous relationships just as it's relevant to people in other kinds of family relationship. If there are children, parenting and child support may be an issue. If an adult is dependent on others, spousal support may be an issue. If property has been purchased or debt incurred, the identification of property rights may be an issue. However, you'll remember the discussion earlier in this chapter about how the rights and responsibilities family law talks about depend on how people fit into terms like spouse, common-law partner, parent, guardian and child. That's where things get difficult for people in polyamorous relationships. British Columbia's Family Law Act, the federal Divorce Act, and the family law legislation of the other provinces and territories are all written on the assumption that adult relationships only come in pairs, and figuring out how the square peg of polyamorous relationships fits into the round hole of pair relationships can be tricky.
Bigamous and polygamous relationships
Bigamy means being married to more than one person at the same time, and is an offence under section 290 of the Criminal Code. Polygamy means being married to more than two other people at the same time, and is a criminal offence under section 293 of the Code. (Polyandry, incidentally, means a marriage involving more than one man, while polygyny means a marriage involving more than one woman. The relationships you see on television in shows like Big Love and Sister Wives are polygynous marriages.)
Polyamorous relationships don't involve the marriage of the people involved, and aren't captured by either section 290 or 293 of the Criminal Code. While pairs of adults in a polyamorous relationship may be married to each other, no one person is married to more than one other person at a time.
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Resources and links
Legislation
- Family Law Act
- Family Law Act Regulation
- Divorce Act
- Income Tax Act
- Wills, Estates and Succession Act
- Adult Guardianship Act
- Old Age Security Act
- Employment and Assistance Act
- Canada Pension Plan
Links
- Legal Services Society's Family Law website's common questions on Finances & Support
- See "How is property divided when a common-law relationship ends?" under the heading "Common questions"
- Canada Pension Plan Survivor's Pension
- Legal Services Society's Family Law website's information page "Going through separation"
- See "Proving you're separated if you and your spouse still live together"
| This information applies to British Columbia, Canada. Last reviewed for legal accuracy by JP Boyd, 27 February 2020. |
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