When a couple people have children, they must accept that they will 'll remain a permanent part of each other's livesuntil their children predecease them, whether they like it or not. A couple They may no longer be partners, but they will always be parents. The parental relationship does not Parental relationships don't end along with the romantic relationshiprelationships.

It is 's impossible to emphasize enough how important it is to always put the children first. This may sound a bit trite, but putting the children ahead of yourself can be an extremely challenging task when you are also trying to cope with the intense emotions involved in separation. It can be tremendously difficult to refrain from badmouthing your former partner to the children, "forgetting" to drop them off on time, and using them as a weaponin your dispute.

The [http://www.justicebc.ca/en/fam/help/pas/index.html Parenting After Separation (PAS) program] is available throughout British Columbia. In my view, all couples with children can benefit from this program, no matter how well or poorly you think you and your former partner get along. The program is free and available online. It offers important advice about talking to your children about the separation, talking about your ex with the children, and talking with your ex in ways that avoid hurting and wounding and are focused on the children.

The Information about parenting after separation, including <span class="noglossary">contact</span> information for the different agencies that offer the PAS program, is available in the [[Children and Parenting after Separation]] chapter, in the section [[Parenting After Separation program can offer important advice ]]. As well, some very good studies about talking to your children about the parenting after separation, talking about your former partner with the children<span class="noglossary">cost</span> of high-conflict family law disputes, and talking with your former partner in ways that avoid hurting other topics relating to children's wellbeing and wounding outcomes after separation can be found iin the website of the [http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/fl-df/divorce/index.html Department of Justice]. These papers are of a uniformly high quality and are focused on well worth the childrenread.

Information about parenting after separation, including <span class="noglossary">contact</span> information for the different agencies that offer the PAS program, is available in the [[Children in Family Law Matters|Children]] chapter, in the section [[Parenting After Separation]]. As well, some very good research papers and literature reviews about parenting after separation, the <span class="noglossary">costs</span> of high=A few notes from John-conflict separation, and other topics relating to the child's well-being and outcomes following separation can be found at the website of the [http://www.justice.gc.ca/eng/fl-df/divorce/index.html Department of Justice]. These papers are of a uniformly high quality and are well worth the read.Paul Boyd===

I am not a psychologist, a psychiatrist, or a counsellor. As a result, this section should be read with a grain of salt as it is based on my observations of my clients' experiences and a healthy dose of common sense. For the same reason, this section should not be used as an authority for the propositions it sets out. There are a ton of resources available to help you cope with the separation process and keep the emotionally harmful aspects of the that process away from your children. In addition to public programs, many counsellors specialize in helping people work through the emotional turmoil that often follows the end of a long-term relationship. Since counsellors are unregulated, anyone can hang out a shingle saying that they offer counselling services. What you should be looking for are people with the designation of ''Registered Clinical Counsellor '' (RCC), ''Certified Canadian Counsellor '' (CCC) or ''Registered Psychologist '' (RPsych). Make sure that the person you're talking to is trained and licensed to provide quality help.