*The [http://www.bcamft.bc.ca/ohana/website/index.cfm?p=95575656796 BC Association for Marriage and Family Therapy] has a referral list and helpful information about how to choose a counsellor.

Many counsellors liken the process of emotionally separating from a long-term relationship to the grieving process that happens when a loved one dies. In general, this process can be expected to take one to two years to complete. Dr. Elizabeth Kübler-Ross, in her book ''[http://www.worldcat.org/title/on-death-and-dying/oclc/4238 On Death and Dying]'', describes a five-stage model of grief, and how grief affects our ability to make decisions in each stage.