Anger also does a lot of very odd things that not many people are aware of. Ignorance of these different functions of If you're not careful, anger can slow the grieving process, entrench unreasonable positions, and protract the resolution of the legal issues flowing from the end of a relationship.

Anger can be used to divert blame from yourself and avoid feelings of guilt. People experiencing anger Anger is easily used as a shield are often avoiding to avoid accepting responsibility for, perhaps, an affair or , being the one who announced the end of the relationship, not being an involved parent, or not being a particularly caring partner. It can also stop you from experiencing the other primary emotions involved in the grieving process, ''sadness '' and ''love''.

Intense anger can also signal that you are not yet done with the relationship. Conflict can be a way of drawing a former partner closer , or maintaining a relationship with a former partner, by getting their attention and maintaining the emotional relationship. Underneath this kind of anger remains love and a continuing attachment to a former partner, as illogical as this sounds. Affection and anger are both very intense emotions, and are about as far away from the ''detachment'' promised by the end of the grieving process as you can get.

The process end of a long-term relationship is difficult for everyone. The emotions involved in separation contains often include a lot of threatsfears and anxieties about the future, whether real or imagined. Many of these threats are obvious: usually fears that go right to the risk heart of losing an asset, the risk our financial and emotional wellbeing. A lot of not being my clients worried about things like whether they'd be able to have another romantic relationshipkeep a roof over their heads, keep the kids enrolled in the same school, stay living in the risk of losing onesame neighbourhood, or continue to be actively involved in their children's childrenlives. Fear triggers the  Fears like these can trigger a fight-or-flight response; , and anger can be a manifestation is often evidence that you're more on the fight side of things than the fight responseflight side. The problem with anger is that these fears and anxieties are reasonable.