5,310
edits
Changes
→Changing decision-making responsibilities and parental responsibilities
*parents have fundamentally different ideas about important issues, like healthcare and schooling, and are not going to be able to agree on the decisions that are in the best interests of their children,
*parents cannot stop arguing about decisions affecting their children, so that decisions are made late or never made at all,
*parents are constantly going to mediation, arbitration or court to resolve disagreements about decisions affecting their children, or*ongoing conflict between the parents about making decisions is affecting the wellbeing of their children, or*there is a personal protection order in place that prevents parents from discussing decisions affecting their children.
In circumstances like these, the changes people usually look for are intended to stop parents from arguing about one or more kinds of decision, and usually people wind up asking for orders that they have sole responsibility for making those decisions. While this may be a practical solution to a difficult problem, it's often a difficult pill to swallow for the parent losing the right to have influence over decisions affecting their children, especially when the approach they would take to making decisions is guided by personal principles, beliefs and convictions. Think, for example, about deciding whether to have a child vaccinated against COVID-19, deciding on home-schooling versus public- or private-schooling, deciding on homeopathic treatments versus traditional medical care, or deciding on the religion in which the child will be instructed.