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It's not always possible to avoid court. Sometimes one or both people are so stubborn that they can't or won't compromise their position, and sometimes you have to take urgent court action to stop something bad from happening. But out-of-court alternatives always offer a cheaper, friendlier resolution to the legal problems that come up when a relationship ends. They are far less stressful and disruptive to the people involved and their children. | It's not always possible to avoid court. Sometimes one or both people are so stubborn that they can't or won't compromise their position, and sometimes you have to take urgent court action to stop something bad from happening. But out-of-court alternatives always offer a cheaper, friendlier resolution to the legal problems that come up when a relationship ends. They are far less stressful and disruptive to the people involved and their children. | ||
It is particularly important to negotiate a settlement when a couple have children. Where there are no children, a couple can walk away from their relationship and have nothing more to do with one another for the rest of their lives. However, where there are children, a couple can expect to be involved with each other, whether they like it or not, for the next five, twenty or forty years. Both parents <span class="noglossary">will</span> want to be at their child's high school graduation, both <span class="noglossary">will</span> want to attend parent-teacher meetings, and both <span class="noglossary">will</span> want to go to school concerts and sports days. | It is particularly important to negotiate a settlement when a couple have children. Where there are no children, a couple can walk away from their relationship and have nothing more to do with one another for the rest of their lives. However, where there are children, a couple can expect to be involved with each other, whether they like it or not, for the next five, twenty or forty years. Both parents <span class="noglossary">will</span> want to be at their child's high school graduation, both <span class="noglossary">will</span> want to attend parent-teacher meetings, and both <span class="noglossary">will</span> want to go to school concerts and sports days. The child <span class="noglossary">will</span> want both parents to be there too. No matter how tense or awkward the relationship between the parents is, they <span class="noglossary">will</span> both be involved in each other's lives until they die or their child predeceases them. As a result, maintaining a functioning relationship is an absolute necessity, and negotiation gives parents the best chance of doing just that. | ||
For more information about parenting issues after a relationship has ended and how to put the children first in your dispute with the other parent, see the section on [[Parenting after Separation]]. For more information about the emotional issues that tend to come with the end of a long-term relationship and how to keep those issues from hopelessly complicating your dispute, see the section on [[Separating Emotionally]]. | For more information about parenting issues after a relationship has ended and how to put the children first in your dispute with the other parent, see the section on [[Parenting after Separation]]. For more information about the emotional issues that tend to come with the end of a long-term relationship and how to keep those issues from hopelessly complicating your dispute, see the section on [[Separating Emotionally]]. |