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==Who should hire a parenting coordinator?==
Parenting coordinators aren't necessary for everyone. The vast majority of separating parents have no need of a parenting coordinatorif they are able to solve parenting disputes together.
Parenting coordinators are for those few couples parents who found themselves fighting before litigation started, fighting as the litigation wound to trial, fighting during the trial, and fighting long after the trial. For these parents, no conflict is too small to argue about and the conflicts seem endless. They frequently find themselves in court asking the judge to make a decision. These are the parents who would benefit most from parenting coordination. In some cases, parents agree to hire a parenting coordinator voluntarily, and in other cases a judge orders that the parents hire a parenting coordinator to help them with ongoing disputes.
==When should you hire a parenting coordinator?==
At present, parenting coordinators trained through the [http://www.bcparentingcoordinators.com BC Parenting coordinators do not make fundamental changes to Coordinators Roster Society] can only be involved when there is a final parenting arrangement. While they can and <span class="noglossary">will</span> adjust an access schedule from time, they can't decide that a child <span class="noglossary">will</span> live with in place as a different parent and they usually won't make long-lasting changes to a schedule result of parenting time or contact. Parenting coordinators need a framework to work with, whether the framework is provided by a court final order or an a separation agreement.
Parenting coordinators do not make fundamental changes to a parenting arrangement. While they can and <span class="noglossary">will</span> adjust a parenting schedule from time, they can't decide that a child <span class="noglossary">will</span> live with a different parent and they usually won't make long-lasting changes to a schedule of parenting time or contact. Parenting coordinators need a framework to work with, whether the framework is provided by a court order or an agreement. Parenting coordinators <span class="noglossary">will</span> make <span class="noglossary">minor</span> adjustments to a parenting schedule as may be required from time to time. They can help resolve problems about parenting disputes, and they <span class="noglossary">will</span> help the parents to communicate with each other more effectivelyin order to try and resolve problems between them. If, with the parenting coordinator's help, the parents are not able to resolve a dispute, the parenting coordinator will make a decision for the parents.
==How do you pick a parenting coordinator?==
The website of the [http://www.bcparentingcoordinators.com BC Parenting Coordinators Roster Society] has a list of their website lists members, sorted alphabetically but with the members identified by . It tells you the location of their each member's practice and by , their profession, (whether lawyer, psychologist, registered clinical counsellor, social worker, or mediator), and usually with there is a link to the member's webpage website. When you've found one or websitetwo parenting coordinators, give them each a call and maybe even arrange to meet each of them. You aren't obliged to hire the first person you meet; wait until you've spoken to someone you feel comfortable with and who you think your ex <span class="noglossary">will</span> listen to.
When you've found one or two talking with potential parenting coordinators with a good location and a background you like: * ask about their current workload, give them each a call and maybe arrange to meet each of them. You aren't obliged to hire * ask when the first person you meet; wait until you've spoken to someone you feel comfortable with and who you think your ex parenting coordinator <span class="noglossary">will</span> listen be available tohelp, and* ask about their hourly fees and retainer requirements.
==How do you hire a parenting coordinator?==
*finding a parenting coordinator your ex can agree to.
As far as the first problem goes, parenting coordinators must be appointed by the parents' agreement or by a court order. If there is no agreement on who to appoint, it will be necessary to make an application to the court and have the court decide who to appoint.
For the second problem, you may simply have to do some more shopping around. It may help to shift some of the burden to your ex. After suggesting your own list of two or three people, ask your ex for his or her list. Try to pick one that you can both agree on.
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