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→Starting the dialogue
When you and your ex are ready to start talking, start talking! Try to make the process as cooperative as possible, which usually means not preparing a stack of calculations to hand to your ex the moment they sit down. No one likes to be bombarded by a bunch of documents as if there was a done deal. Make a list of the things you need to talk about together. Usually this includes:
#where the children <span class="noglossary">will</span> live for most of the time,
#how decisions about the children <span class="noglossary">will</span> be made,
#how much child support should be paid,
#whether someone is in need of spousal support, and how much should be paid, and
#how the family assets and debts <span class="noglossary">will</span> be divided.
Other lists <span class="noglossary">will</span> be useful as the negotiations continue: