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Maybe this odd and unpleasant phenomenon is where the saying "familiarity breeds contempt" comes from. But perhaps there's another cause than simple familiarity. When spouses separate, particularly when they separate suddenly, they go through an awful transition — from loving partners who would trust each other with their lives to adversaries pitted against each other — in the blink of an eye. That's hard. Understandably, the transition can encourage significant mistrust, ill-will and suspicion among everyone involved.
It takes a big person to accomplish this transition with care and grace. Very few people Those of us who don't have the luxury of undertaking the "conscious uncoupling" Gwyneth Paltrow recommends, have to come up with awful lot of patience, respect, and tolerance. (And maturity. Maturity was a common characteristic among the majority of my clients who were able to rise above the emotional battlefield.) On top of that, you also need to be fairly empathetic and develop some pretty top-drawer communication skills.
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