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Things are a lot different for parents. A significant, often lengthy relationship has ended, and in the midst of all of the emotions that go along with that — grief, anger, jealousy, love, and loss — they suddenly find themselves opposed in interest to the person they once loved. They might also find themselves having to deal with some extremely difficult legal issues about some of the things that are most important to them, like their children. It's even worse when parents wind up fighting about these things in court.
Litigation can have a very profound impact on people. At its core, litigation is an adversarial process. Each parent is fighting the other in <span class="noglossary">order</span> to "win," and where there's a winner there's always a loser. This sort of approach to resolving disputes often polarizes parents and encourages them to take extreme positions. In circumstances like these, it can be easy to forget how important it is that the children maintain a positive, loving relationship with each of their parents. It's also easy for each parent's view of the other to become clouded by hatred, malice and spite, to the point where nothing the other parent can do is ever right. Attitudes like these are almost impossible to shield from children. Whether intentionally or unintentionally, the children are inevitably exposed to these negative views which, without intervention, can come to colour the children's own views of the other parent.