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Of course, problems can come up when our expectations of each other's boundaries don't quite match, and it's sometimes really important to talk about boundaries as a result. Setting and respecting each other's boundaries can be the key to making a difficult parenting relationship work. Here are some of the boundaries I've seen people use: | Of course, problems can come up when our expectations of each other's boundaries don't quite match, and it's sometimes really important to talk about boundaries as a result. Setting and respecting each other's boundaries can be the key to making a difficult parenting relationship work. Here are some of the boundaries I've seen people use: | ||
*requiring communication by text and email rather than by telephone, or communication by telephone rather than by text or email, | |||
*setting limits on the length of emails and letters, | |||
*setting limits on the volume of communication in a given period, or the hours within which communication will be replied to, | |||
*restricting the subjects that can be discussed, | |||
*restricting the family members and friends who can be communicated with, | |||
*fixing the time and place where the children will be exchanged, and | |||
*setting consequences for failing to honour boundaries. | |||
Privacy expectations, and the boundaries they imply, are a source of frequent conflict when relationships end. Since it can be hard to respect a former partner's privacy when your relationship has become adversarial, let's spell out some of the more basic rules. | Privacy expectations, and the boundaries they imply, are a source of frequent conflict when relationships end. Since it can be hard to respect a former partner's privacy when your relationship has become adversarial, let's spell out some of the more basic rules. |
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